My kids love to help. They love to be included in the process of whatever I’m doing, no matter how small the task. Ever since he was young, my Explorer has loved to wash dishes, vacuum floors and help his dad in the yard. His little brother has followed in his footsteps.
I have to confess that sometimes (perhaps too often) I’m eager to get through one task and onto the next and don’t always feel like welcoming the little helping hands that will inevitably slow my progress. I have much to do, I tell myself. I need to get dinner in the oven quickly because the baby wants to be held, and there are dishes to do, and homework assignments to check, and we’re already behind schedule and will never get to bed on time…..
But when I have the discipline to stop and welcome those curious, eager little helpers into my tasks, there is connection, and teamwork and we all experience lessons learned through living. The kids grow in confidence and enthusiasm and I’m able to engage with them while getting things done. Because laundry and dishes can wait – but not forever. What my kids really want most of all is time with mom and dad, regardless of whether we’re playing with robots or sweeping the patio.
This is a lesson I’m learning. To stop. To welcome. To invest. To live in that moment of connection without hurry or impatience or stress.
We never know how much those moments will mean to our children. Recently, my husband had to make a trip to the dump. It was the last place he wanted to have to go. He considered it a tedious chore… but it was the coolest thing our son had ever seen.